on grief and the end

start with something basic
water, the tub

soak there and listen to your
housemate play the ukulele

your housemate, you didn't choose
a housemate.

you chose a lover

your lover did not choose you

start with something simple
a hug, a how are you

when they ask and want to know
you share

time passes slowly, i know
your chest aches
i know

you listen while everyone else asks
the questions
you can't answer

why, and how come, and how could
he do that

you sleep
watch the sun set out of your
west facing window

your home together didn't face the west

i know
your chest, it aches i know
ache is not a metaphor
it's the real thing, i know

and while you yearn for the presence
of a person who left you

you remember
you will never leave yourself

start with something basic
a plant, a meal

learn what it means to make something again
to grow
something again
all for yourself

it aches, i know
you cannot hold a baby close enough to
relieve the pain

start with something simple
a tear
a poem
a nap

you didn't choose a housemate
you chose a lover
he didn't choose you

you choose yourself

day eighteen

 day nineteen

day twenty

day twenty one

for years i've had this weird mental image of a marshmallow man, but thin. imagine the sensation of being stick thin and being full of marshmallows. 

it's fall. the city is alive and the office smells like chemicals. i feel the pulling in. 

day sixteen 

day seventeen

stages of grief
walk through the world suspended between time zones
curse, strong emphasis on motherfucker
compulsively eat
compulsively shop
find friends, all the friends, sing in circles of busyness
make appointments for massages and chiropractors
drink old fashioneds with cherries
don't fall down
study light
drink water
crave green food again
walk a little further this time

day ten

day eleven

day twelve

day thirteen

day fourteen

day fifteen

spend all your love

you can't take it with you

use your body hard

you can't take it with you

this is a fresh hard rip

rugged, dry, unclean

this is a dark blood anger

running, deep, wet

i feel my hands every day

i react react

i hold myself at night

cradle the sacred

talk to the fear

day nine

we must let our sadness visit
we must welcome it

my housemate played the ukulele
i listened from my candlelit lavender water
i thought about grace and new beginnings
and tilling the soil

the weight of the three week old baby in my arms

the tears that ran down my cheek, listening to 

the extra long hug from a colleague

the determination to do good

the silence

the owl outside my window

the harmonies i will listen to this weekend

the fuck you fuck you fuck you text i sent to protect myself

day seven

acceptance is a small, quiet room

things i know to be true- 

there are two kinds of people in the world

companionship is comforting in both experience and observation

always give me more basil

fewer words, more breath